“How many times have I told you…”
“You should know better…!”
“ARG not again!”
Omg I’m such a rubbish parent! 😣
As a parent I find myself affording more grace and kindness to people at work than to my kids. 😔
I think a big part of it is that I am replaying tapes from my childhood that has been programmed for me.
Criticism from family, especially not-Western cultures have these “reasons”:
– we love you
– we want the best for you
– we know better
– you will fail if you disobey
But love that’s shame based does not create safety.
Now whenever I feel frustration rising because of something the sprogs have done, I try to catch those words before they get verbalized.
And I turn off the WiFi. 😆
OK, am also working on those passive aggressive tendencies but one thing at a time, OK? 😁
