๐๐ผ๐ป’๐ ๐ท๐๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ ๐ฏ๐ ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ. ๐
Do you? ๐ฌ
Don’t say you don’t.
We all do it… because it’s the first thing we see.
– How does the title grab us?
– What do the choice of font make us feel?
– How about the typography, positioning, the copy?
– The texture of the cover, gloss or matt, and even the weight of the book in our hands.
We get an instant ‘feel’ from the first few seconds, before we’ve opened the book to read the first line.
That’s the same with people and connections.
I talked about the “5 Tinder secrets of being a desirable consultant” at CzechDreamin and…
Secret #1: First Impressions Matter.
Even when you don’t think it does.
Even when you think it shouldn’t.
It matters.
At least initially.
What separates the more emotionally mature people from the rest, is the pause that comes after, and the questions they ask themselves:
I’ve just formed an impression of this person/profile/book/thing-I-am-looking-at-or-thinking-about based on the first glance.
– What are my initial thoughts and feelings about it?
– Do I feel that they are correct/accurate?
– What might be colouring this impression?
– What assumptions might I be making?
– What other unconscious bias is going on here?
– Now that I have recognised them, what do I want to do about it?
– How do I want to conduct myself that is true to my values in this matter?
So many questions that is key in unlocking #EmotionalIntelligence in a way that ensures the initial spark leads to a long lasting meaningful relationship.
Start a relationship right by creating the right first impression, especially when competing with other candidates for job roles, or profiles on a dating site. ๐
We’ll talk about what comes next in the next few posts!