Sometimes it feels like making a decision is a “for life” one.
And that makes people not want to decide.
Many people are afraid of making mistakes that are irreversible, especially if they’ve grown up in a world where mistakes are punished, and there is an expectation to be ‘perfect’ all the time.
Get good marks.
Excel in all exams.
Score in your musical gradings.
Get into the sporting team.
Win win win!
Otherwise, you’re a loser.
But if you don’t make mistakes, how do you know who you are?
How do you know what
– makes you not want to wake up in the morning
– bores you to tears
– your strengths are
– your gaps may be
– makes your heart sing
– makes magic
How do you know the edges of the person you’re meant to be?
I believe that while there are decisions in life that have deeply impactful consequences (such as having a child with the wrong person at the wrong time of your life), there are many which builds your character.
When I was young, I had the energy, time and focus to make tonnes of mistakes, learn shedloads about myself and the world around me, and bounce right back.
I don’t think I can do that now – especially with family and other obligations and responsibilities.
So how do I make decisions where the cost of a mistake isn’t too heavy to bear?
We discussed this during my fortnightly workshop + group coaching for Zenhao Academy members on ‘Thing Every Other Friday’.
For me, I distilled the decision making questions down to 2:
1. Which path would make the best impact on myself and the world, and
2. Which one makes my heart sing (or as Tracy Greene said – which one makes your eyes light up and not glaze over)
If I make the right choice – happy happy joy joy.
If not, I just learned something about myself, or how the world works.
I was just reflectin on this week just gone and thought I’d share it here.
Saying that, I would not have minded a life as LIbrarian, to read all the books to my hearts content, fueled by an unlimited supply of donuts! 🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩
If only life worked like that 😋