I love questions.
I discover so much about others, and so much about myself just by using great questions.
It’s a great conversational tool, and can be used to tactfully coax a vulnerable share, or when used with the Socratic approach – can strip off all layers to lay bare the matter at hand.
I’m a long standing fan of Seth Godin and am doing the Marketing Seminar where we collaborate and work with our cohort, helping each other learn by tagging and asking reflective questions.
It promotes connectedness and can spark very interesting discussion along the way, or create an environment that’s safe enough for someone to share their thoughts and feelings.
Let’s start with the first one.
“What’s on your mind?”
This kickstarts the conversation, and tells them that you’re curious about them, and what they are currently facing.
“Tell me, what’s happening in your world.”
“What do you think of the weather today” (yes – it’s a very British question)
I don’t generally use the “How are you?” question, as people will reflexively respond with “Fine” – the label that hides an extensive spectrum of feelings.
If I forget, I always follow up with, “No. How are you really?”
However you wish start the conversation, remember to practice non judgemental active listening.
Good questions open doors.
#ActiveListening keeps them open.
Don’t try to solve their problems, and don’t judge.
#BeKind and just listen.
You never know the invisible demons that others may be fighting every day. 🌹
#ArtOfConversation
#OnThePeiroll
