In a conversation, when I am ‘Me’ focused, I am:
– crafting my reply to jump in to interrupt when you next pause
– thinking about the time when my situation was worse 😱
– coming up with a ‘solution’ or ‘fix’ for your situation
– mentally hurrying you to get to the interesting or ‘juicy’ bits 🍊
– wondering when you are going to stop because your story is a bit boring😴
– thinking about how to get my next 🍩 fix because I’m craving sugar.
Ever have this happen to you?
I used to do all of that, and MORE.
That was before I really learned about #ActiveListening and what it means to be present for the other person.
Active Listening is a dynamic posture.
In a conversation, when I am ‘You’ focused, I am paying full attention to:
– your story, in your words
– the language you are choosing to use
– your non-verbals and body language 🤏🏻
– the pitch, tone and pace of your speech
– the emotional energy you are exuding ☔
It’s consciously being present in the moment and getting in tune with everything I see, hear and feel from listening to you, so that I am able to sense your emotional state in my body and my heart ❤.
I will be talking about this topic at the Melbourne Women in Tech user group tomorrow morning, Thursday at 0900 BST (or 1800 AEST).
Link to register and join in the comments.
Right, who am I going to see there?
