Tip 1: Turn your internal debug mode ON.
“What are you talking about?” 🤔 I hear you ask.
Just like what it says…
It’s about intentionally, mindfully analysing how you operate and answering:
🍩 Why you just had that thought?
🍩 Why did that message triggered an emotion?
🍩 What’s this emotion you’re feeling?
🍩 How do you feel about labelling this emotion?
🍩 How do you feel about yourself when you know how this emotion is triggered?
🍩 What is it threatening?
🍩 Are you operating from fear and weakness?
🍩 What might you want to do about it?
🍩 Why do you feel what you feel about this person?
🍩 Why do you think the things you do about them?
🍩 Are you assuming things and context? Why?
🍩 What else might be true?
🍩 How might that change the way you feel?
🍩 What does all of this mean?
These are some great self reflecting questions.
“Is there such a thing as an uncoachable person?”
The answer is YES.
Especially if that person lacks self awareness.
This means that they are limiting their opportunity to grow and to develop into a better version of themselves.
When I’m on the phone as a #Samaritan listening to our caller’s who are emotionally distressed, perhaps even feeling suicidal… I use the power of questions to help them explore their feelings.
It’s only through this process of gentle probing into raw, and sometimes uncomfortable place that we begin to grow.
This is part of the session I gave in #AD23 yesterday on how Emotional Intelligence plays such a crucial part in #salesforce Discovery.
Stay tuned for more tips.
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