What’s your shape?

What’s your shape? 📐🟥⭕

Does it fit the role you’re going for?
Does it fit the idea of what your spouse/significant other/partner wants you to be?
How about for your friends, your children, your relationships?

How about the the shape that you think you ‘ought’ to be?

Evolution has taught the brain to pigeonhole or categorize others very quickly – by slicing impressions, so that we know the protocols of behaviour to safeguard our survival.

Predator or prey?
Friend or foe?

The ones who are able to understand that people have many layers of complexities, sometimes too subtle to notice on the surface, will be able to connect and create deep and meaningful relationships.

As a Samaritan, I am on the phone with callers who talk to me about the things that they keep hidden from others – fear, regret, longing, love, grief, loss, pain.

All I know is that underneath whatever mask we choose to project to others, lies our Self. Fear of judgement, of being told that we are ‘wrong’, ‘not enough’, or ‘not worthy’ stops us from sharing this part of us.

But here’s the thing.
I believe one of our deepest human needs is to 𝗕𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗻.
To 𝗕𝗲 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗱.
To 𝗕𝗲 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗱.

Because we need to know that 𝗪𝗲 𝗠𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿.

All it takes is just being present, and asking some questions.
How are you doing?
No, how are you _really_ doing?
Tell me what’s going on.

And then, just listen.
Let them know that they matter.

If you haven’t got anyone to talk to, and you need to talk, call Samaritans freephone from the UK 116 123.

We see you.
We hear you.

You don’t have to go through this alone. 🌹

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